How "Ride or Die"are you?

Ask most guys and they'll tell you its a requirement to be with them.
"... If you fuck with me than follow me on this journey and together we'll be good in the end. We got each others back.."
Or
" She has to be that backbone through thick and thin..."
Or
"..Made from his side so I feel a "ride or die" lady should stand beside her man thru da ups n downs..."

So ladies, basically, you wanna keep your man ? You gotta show him that you're down for whatever....whenever. But Ask most females and they tell you its a cop out...a selfish way for a guy to keep a woman hanging along. To most women, when a dude says( in the most seductive voice of course)," Baby..I need you to ride it out on this one" or "Boo..you know you're my ride or die chick" it usually translates into the following: "Baby, I intend to act up so I need you to promise to put up with my mess " or Boo, I know things aren't easy right now but I need you to hang on for the rest of this bumpy road until things get better...whenever that may be". Either way, when women start to feel like they need to "ride or die", the relationship begins to go either 1 of 2 ways:


1. She runs for the nearest exit because she just may not be ready to deal with what your about to bring to the table to have her choosing to either" Ride it out" or "Die" in the process...


Or


2. She runs closer to a man cuz she feels like at the end of the day if she chooses to ride...even if she dies...she's not dying alone ...


After surveying the responses of several men( not just boys but responsible men with a good head on their shoulders ) the responses prove that to men...having a" ride or die" woman means a lot....ultimately making or breaking a relationship.


Oddly enough ,you hardly hear a woman ask her man to "ride it out". Why is that?! Whether it be a so-called lack of " good men" or readiness to settle which so many women are guilty of, the point remains that women don't require half as much as a man does when he decides to be in a relationship. Yes, many women have high standards going in, but once were in it...were in it....and then the tables turn. For most, relationships become a game of monopoly in which men occupy all the get out of jail free cards while women are just simply trying to get passed the next level without losing all that they worked so hard for.

Question of the day : Who decided such loyalty starts in a relationship? Isn't that where marriage comes in? Better or for worse? Sickness and in health? Women are under the assumption that true loyalty in totality is given to our husband...not just our bf. Don't get me wrong there should be a level of loyalty shown during the beginning stages of what could be the rest of our lives. HOWEVER there are limits...limits that have to be enforced . Limits that derive from understanding and communication that subliminally states, yes ill be there for you but don't expect me to put my life to the side while you figure out if you'll be there for me. When you start hearing things like,


", when shit hits the fan, i.e.....cheating, losing interest and all types of other man shit we do, you need your lady to be by your side still if that was to happen. You need your lady to make you realize where "home" is."...


Well... It becomes harder and harder to realize it "riding it out" is worth it.


The term ride or die often becomes a cop-out for refusing to accept the consequences of your actions.why? Because you believe you have someone that will always be there. It's not asking for too much for your partner to stick it through tough times, but sometimes we take it too far. And even though this was mostly about the fellas, women are no exception. We too expect men to put up with bullsh*t. Although men usually bring in their drama from the outside, women usually show their "crazy" from within. While riding it out for men may mean dealing with their actions, riding it out for a woman may in fact mean dealing with their emotions. Either way, after a while, you cant expect your partner to deal with it forever.

In today's times we face Baby mama/daddy drama, infidelity, laziness or lock down lovin, yet limits are everywhere. Men need to accept it, and women need to embrace it . After all, someone can only do to you what you let them do...you choose what you do or dont put up with  from the start , the manner in which it affects your ending... you have no one to blame but yourself.