I don't know about you...but I am SO tired of the gender double standard that takes place between men and women. Why is it that what is acceptable for one sex isn't for the other? Yes we've been bought up and raised to believe that we each play our own roles in this thing called life but here we are in 2009, and it seems like we've gotten NOWHERE in this regard. From careers to relationships, this whole double standard has gotten out of control slowly placing too much control on our lives; I’m ready for a change. Lately it’s been harder and harder to go one step farther when we ourselves keep pushing us back because of what we think should be happening. No matter what, men are expected to do "this" and women are expected to do "that". The crazy part is that after all the breakthroughs we've had, any deviation from what's typical is mostly frowned upon instead of appreciated.
When a woman works hard and achieves beyond what society expects, she's accused of trying to be a man, and is then perceived as not wanting one because she can do it all herself. And when she messes up, as all human beings do, does she get any encouragement? No! She gets a big" I told you so"; all the while her male counterpart is considered a "go-getter". The sad part is that the farther women go, the less likely her chances are of finding a good mate, as the chances for men, sky rocket for the same reason.
Women aren't the only ones, men experience it too. When a man actually chooses to raise his child, he's accused of having an alternate motive such as a welfare check, trying to impress the ladies by his parenting skills, and whatever other nonsense we've thought of over the years. We've sadly grown to expect men to suck at being a good dad and when it happens, it seems almost impossible.
Or when a man decides to pursue a career that is usually done by women such as nursing or cooking, he's considered inadequate for not wanting to ride bikes and fix cars.
Here's another good one: when a woman dates various men( meaning more than one) she's considered a slut, gold digger, among many other names. It’s almost as if society expects women to go on one date their whole lives and label him as “the one", never to try again. Yet if a man does the same thing, he's praised by his fellow dudes, and even admired by some females as a "catch".
Let's face it, a lot of stuff that men do , no matter how crazy, are eventually accepted by most of us, while woman are shun to the darkest places of the earth never given a chance at redemption. We see it in relationships, media, even in the workplace. There needs to be a fair medium in which men and women can be treated fairly as they are now acting similarly in various aspects of life. We need to reach a place where women aren't as forgiving of nonsense and men ease up a bit on their standards to which they rate decent womanly behavior.
Yes, there are some cases that are governed by some unspoken rule in which fair treatment is just not possible for a number of reasons... Like domestic violence. But for the most part, things have to change; Or else, in order to remain happy women may have to put themselves back 20 years , wear aprons and long skirts standing in the shadows of our male counterparts holding 10 babies....showing acceptance into society.
