OK.... We Hear You!!

WOMAN: Wife, sister, mother, councilman,lawyer,,confidant, handyman, caregiver...and the list goes on. It's no secret that ladies today have come a long way in the various roles that we play in society, sometimes simultaneously. In some cases we have a tendency to take this way too far, losing the role that we were meant to portray as a woman. Whatever we do should be an attempt to reach some sort of contentment and happiness for ourselves. Yet many of us are left miserable and bitter, and leaves me wondering why. "I am woman , hear me roar" may have once upon a time been a necessary proclamation but today, its gone a bit too far. Women, especially of color have taken on the responsibility of the world on their shoulders as they try to accomplish as much as possible, defying the expectations of everyone who didn't believe they could do it. Its safe to say we've done pretty well in handling it all, yet it seems that lately we feel the need to express our accomplishments and tell of things that we've overcome to the world time and time again. Many of us have gotten through a lot in our lifetimes and this may only be the beginning. We were even privelged to watch the closest a woman has ever come to being president of our nation as Hilary Clinton broke down many barriers for women worldwide. So if that’s the case shouldn’t we be proud not angry? No matter how much someone may look down on you, or try to " hate" on you , that's their problem not yours. There will always be people who will undermine your achievements and neglect your greatness. Its time that we women come to a sense of contentment within ourselves to live our lives for us , and not to prove something to someone else....as if they have a reward waiting for us everytime we proclaim how wonderful we are. The time and energy we use to "speak our mind" , letting someone know all that we've done, and all you won't tolerate because we've done so much , is a moment that we can't get back; which couldve been used to do something that makes us genuinely happy; instead of the resentment we feel when we don’t get the response we expected from the world . Also, the same ladies that are out there highlighting what they feel are their strengths day after day, hour after hour, are the same ones living with the regrets of what has ultimately become their weakness.

A lot of us try to advertise the accomplishment of ourselves, but fail to give that same acknowledgment to other women who are trying their best each day. Ladies if you look carefully, our biggest critics aren’t our male counterparts but ourselves.
It’s pretty much expected for us to continue to great things, with grace and humility without the approval of our peer counterparts. We’ve come a long way but we have a long way to go, starting with us.