As we go through life and interact with different people along the way, how we may try to act, may not necessarily be how someone else sees our behavior. The world goes round because each and every person has their own views and sees each and every aspect of life differently. One event can bring about countless of perceptions as to what actually happened. The important thing to remember is that just because someone doesn't view something the same way you do, it doesn't make it wrong… it makes it human.
Truth vs. Fact
We’re surrounded by countless facts. Fact: Barack Obama is president; Fact: there are 12 months in a year, and the list goes on. In grade school we learn the difference between fact and opinion, however as we grow older we need to embrace the difference between what's a fact, and what simply became a truth based on our point of view (our opinion). In court proceedings we" swear to tell the whole truth”. This is because the facts are already presented; the judge now needs to hear the truth in the eyes of those who have become witnesses. The fact could be that there were two witnesses present to a robbery however based on where they were and other forms of circumstantial evidence, how they perceived what happened could be totally different. Situations like this happen every day, in our own lives eventually impacting our own behavior.
Our Perceptions versus our actions play a major role in our everyday relationships. How we do something may be meant one way but someone else on the outside looking in could take it another. It’s easy to form our own truths, based on how it impacted you. Eventually if we believe something long enough or perceive an event to be a certain way for a long period of time, you sincerely think it to be valid based on the reliability of your feelings. Majority of times, in relationships the facts are clear, but the truth will often vary between the two parties involved....usually emphasizing the differences between males and females. It’s important to remember that the two viewpoints may be different, but it doesn't make it any less important or substantial. For example, although we may not have intended to cause any harm, and sincerely believe we had everyone’s best interest at heart, it doesn't take away from the fact that harm did arise based on the events that took place. Although you may not agree, you must respect their views in order to perhaps do things differently in the future.
Taking another person's truth into account is not easy, especially when you have your own truth on the same matter. We would all like others to understand where were coming from. However if we all thought the same way, we would live in a boring world and would not be able to grow to our full potential. Many of us look for understanding in relationships however it easily becomes wasted as judgment comes to play. We begin to throw stones easily forgetting that many of us still occupy glass houses…or at least have a glass window somewhere.
Before you try to understand someone, simply listen to them first. Although what they have to say may sound crazy and unwarranted, the respect you've shown by listening will take your relationship (no matter the type) a long way. The opinions of others help us grow as individuals. We know were ready to handle the facts when we can realize the importance of not just our truth, but the truth as others see it.
Truth vs. Fact
We’re surrounded by countless facts. Fact: Barack Obama is president; Fact: there are 12 months in a year, and the list goes on. In grade school we learn the difference between fact and opinion, however as we grow older we need to embrace the difference between what's a fact, and what simply became a truth based on our point of view (our opinion). In court proceedings we" swear to tell the whole truth”. This is because the facts are already presented; the judge now needs to hear the truth in the eyes of those who have become witnesses. The fact could be that there were two witnesses present to a robbery however based on where they were and other forms of circumstantial evidence, how they perceived what happened could be totally different. Situations like this happen every day, in our own lives eventually impacting our own behavior.
Our Perceptions versus our actions play a major role in our everyday relationships. How we do something may be meant one way but someone else on the outside looking in could take it another. It’s easy to form our own truths, based on how it impacted you. Eventually if we believe something long enough or perceive an event to be a certain way for a long period of time, you sincerely think it to be valid based on the reliability of your feelings. Majority of times, in relationships the facts are clear, but the truth will often vary between the two parties involved....usually emphasizing the differences between males and females. It’s important to remember that the two viewpoints may be different, but it doesn't make it any less important or substantial. For example, although we may not have intended to cause any harm, and sincerely believe we had everyone’s best interest at heart, it doesn't take away from the fact that harm did arise based on the events that took place. Although you may not agree, you must respect their views in order to perhaps do things differently in the future.
Taking another person's truth into account is not easy, especially when you have your own truth on the same matter. We would all like others to understand where were coming from. However if we all thought the same way, we would live in a boring world and would not be able to grow to our full potential. Many of us look for understanding in relationships however it easily becomes wasted as judgment comes to play. We begin to throw stones easily forgetting that many of us still occupy glass houses…or at least have a glass window somewhere.
Before you try to understand someone, simply listen to them first. Although what they have to say may sound crazy and unwarranted, the respect you've shown by listening will take your relationship (no matter the type) a long way. The opinions of others help us grow as individuals. We know were ready to handle the facts when we can realize the importance of not just our truth, but the truth as others see it.
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