Many people believe that effort is the key to achieving all that you need to in life. Little do they understand that there is so much to that notion. This blog touches on some of the important aspects of what I feel is required to achieve greatness: in many aspects of your life.
Hope you enjoy.
Give it all you got!
Try your best in all that you do, this way when its all said and done, this will help you carry on if things dont go your way. This concept may not seem so clear when thinking about relationships.We hear constantly that for a relationship to work, it must be 50/50. Two people equal to one another. The problem is, just because two people put their best foot forward….doesn't necessarily mean they were meant to move together in the right direction. Between two people giving equal effort, there isn't a guarantee to be one left foot given by one person and one right foot given by the other. Who knows, there may just be two left feet….which may ultimately lead you back to where you began. "There's no traffic on the extra mile", so, give it all you got. If you are in fact headed in the right direction, taking the extra steps needed to produce results will come effortlessly…..and the ride which may seem long to some…will be surprisingly easy for you. On the other hand, if your headed in the wrong direction….you will eventually run out of fuel…forced to pick up the pieces. As much as we may want to end up in a certain direction, keep in mind there will always be road signs, hinting as to which way is in fact appropriate.
Settling
Never settle for less than you deserve. As humans who work so hard and love even harder, we have a tendency to equate what we deserve based on superficial factors. It is essential not to define what you believe should be yours based on how much time you put into achieving it, nor by how much you desired it in its initial stages. What may have been good for you then, may not be the best thing for you now. We tend to have the mentality that, "I'll be damned if I let this go after all this hard work I put in or "after all I been through , this is owed to me." The important thing to remember is that life, owes you nothing. Its up to you to realize just how special you are , and how much you owe this lifetime. The time to look at is now. Its not that those things aren't important, but its not enough to be the basis for your future effort.
So how you know what you deserve? Well its important to look at not what YOU deserve, but what is deserving of you. This knowledge occurs only from within. This is when it becomes time to examine yourself through extensive self reflection. Only when this is complete will you know what you truly are worthy of and vice versa, and even more importantly, if your ready for it. Next step in knowing what you deserve and never settling for less : be ready , willing and understanding for what it will take to get there. Do not let pride interfere with your decision not to settle . Alot of times, we decide to give up on something because our pride tells us to give up, not because youre tired of putting in the work to get what you need, but because pride establishes a sense of shame and embarrasment, leaving you scared to disappoint yourself once more. To counteract your pride, the next step is self appreciation. Appreciate the struggle of not what has bought you down, but of what has essentially at this moment, picked you up. Its up to you to have faith that all things happen for a reason, and everything that does occur, is to prepare you for the life you are meant to live. No one else can do that for you.
Letting Go or Letting it be
Lets say you feel that have put in all the effort you could and have now reached the stage in your development or life span in which, physically, emotionally, mentally ….there's nothing left to be done. Emotionally, you've turned in every direction yet find yourself more confised then when you first started. Physically you've made the time to provide the blood sweat and tears you felt were necessary to achieve what you wanted.At this point the only thing left, no matter how hard you try to believe it's gone, is spiritualty. And that is more than enough for you make a final decision: to let go, or to let it be. Believe it or not, this is one of the greatest forms of effort in itself. What makes this decision so hard is that once chosen….You can let something be and then choose to let go, but you cant choose to let go and then choose let something be, expecting it to still be there when you make that decision. " Nothing that's worth it isn't worth fighting for"…..decide what situation in your life is worth the fight. If you are really torn between where and when to throw in the towel or give it one more shot, look at the pros and cons of the situation. If you have weighed your options and ultimately pursuing this struggle in your life no longer reaps rewards greater than its punishments, then Let it GO. Let that job go, let that addiction go, let that task go, let him/her go, let them go. But if you realize that despite all the pain, all the suffering, that its ultimately all worth it because the satisfaction you receive from the rewards, whether small or large in number are great enough to keep you moving forward , then that's when you let it be. Success isn't measured in quantity, its measured in capacity. If you've done all you can, stop killing yourself, and trust in the steps you've taken so far. And if its meant to be it will. If not, then you will slowly see that you didn't even have to choose to let go: the choice will be made for you.
Be true to yourself
Before you continue to put work into something in which you are unsure of the outcome, decide what's best for you. If your hardest decision involves someone who may come across as very important to you, sometimes the best thing to do is take the time to not delete them from your life, but temporarily subtract them from the situation in order to make a clear decision. If they are truly for you and worth having you in their lives, they will find a way back to you, not necessarily to pick up where you left off, but to perhaps to provide insight as to where you should be headed for the future...together or separate. If you care about someone, no matter how they have hurt you, or have done you any harm, the worst thing to do is be dishonest...with your feelings for them and your relationship. If you lead them to think every thing is ok, they will expect certain things from you that will ultimately become impossible when in your being, there is anguish towards them, and also yourself. This goes not just for relationships, but in various aspects of your life in general. Decide who and what is important TO you and who and what is important FOR you. In life you will come across many who were placed in your life at the time they were, just to get you through that stage of your development, nothing more, nothing less. Few of these people may still pop up every now and then, just to remind you of where you've been, and where you're destined to go, not essentially meaning they are a part of that journey. Whether it seemed as if the relationship was positive or negative, the truth of the matter is ,it has shaped you, molded you, scarred you: finished result: you are NOT the same as you were before. The greatest teacher is a student. Allow yourself to learn from life's mistakes ultimately impacting your progress and who knows, maybe that of someone else.
Let your heart lead the way…..not your mind
If you are torn as to what at this present moment is best for you, follow your heart. This road includes your gut instincts, no regrets and a greater appreciation for your ultimate decision. A lot of time we decide to pursue situations because when we thought it through, it seemed like the right choice. There is nothing wrong with thinking before acting, but the problem arises when things are thought about too much. You will never be satisfied with your decision.. Some of the best and most long lasting decisions are made using an impulse. Although rain may come whether you think about it or not, at least when it does arrive, can appreciate the fact that there will be a rainbow to follow.The problem with using just your mind is that even though you carried an umbrella, you will have difficulty bouncing back when the sun shines again, furthermore expecting it to rain everytime.
Final thought. Give it your best shot. Work hard, love hard, but most importantly, believe even harder. In not just what you're trying to achieve, but in yourself. Appreciate where you've been, and know that YOU ultimately decide based on your effort, where you will go.
Thanks for reading
Hope you enjoy.
Give it all you got!
Try your best in all that you do, this way when its all said and done, this will help you carry on if things dont go your way. This concept may not seem so clear when thinking about relationships.We hear constantly that for a relationship to work, it must be 50/50. Two people equal to one another. The problem is, just because two people put their best foot forward….doesn't necessarily mean they were meant to move together in the right direction. Between two people giving equal effort, there isn't a guarantee to be one left foot given by one person and one right foot given by the other. Who knows, there may just be two left feet….which may ultimately lead you back to where you began. "There's no traffic on the extra mile", so, give it all you got. If you are in fact headed in the right direction, taking the extra steps needed to produce results will come effortlessly…..and the ride which may seem long to some…will be surprisingly easy for you. On the other hand, if your headed in the wrong direction….you will eventually run out of fuel…forced to pick up the pieces. As much as we may want to end up in a certain direction, keep in mind there will always be road signs, hinting as to which way is in fact appropriate.
Settling
Never settle for less than you deserve. As humans who work so hard and love even harder, we have a tendency to equate what we deserve based on superficial factors. It is essential not to define what you believe should be yours based on how much time you put into achieving it, nor by how much you desired it in its initial stages. What may have been good for you then, may not be the best thing for you now. We tend to have the mentality that, "I'll be damned if I let this go after all this hard work I put in or "after all I been through , this is owed to me." The important thing to remember is that life, owes you nothing. Its up to you to realize just how special you are , and how much you owe this lifetime. The time to look at is now. Its not that those things aren't important, but its not enough to be the basis for your future effort.
So how you know what you deserve? Well its important to look at not what YOU deserve, but what is deserving of you. This knowledge occurs only from within. This is when it becomes time to examine yourself through extensive self reflection. Only when this is complete will you know what you truly are worthy of and vice versa, and even more importantly, if your ready for it. Next step in knowing what you deserve and never settling for less : be ready , willing and understanding for what it will take to get there. Do not let pride interfere with your decision not to settle . Alot of times, we decide to give up on something because our pride tells us to give up, not because youre tired of putting in the work to get what you need, but because pride establishes a sense of shame and embarrasment, leaving you scared to disappoint yourself once more. To counteract your pride, the next step is self appreciation. Appreciate the struggle of not what has bought you down, but of what has essentially at this moment, picked you up. Its up to you to have faith that all things happen for a reason, and everything that does occur, is to prepare you for the life you are meant to live. No one else can do that for you.
Letting Go or Letting it be
Lets say you feel that have put in all the effort you could and have now reached the stage in your development or life span in which, physically, emotionally, mentally ….there's nothing left to be done. Emotionally, you've turned in every direction yet find yourself more confised then when you first started. Physically you've made the time to provide the blood sweat and tears you felt were necessary to achieve what you wanted.At this point the only thing left, no matter how hard you try to believe it's gone, is spiritualty. And that is more than enough for you make a final decision: to let go, or to let it be. Believe it or not, this is one of the greatest forms of effort in itself. What makes this decision so hard is that once chosen….You can let something be and then choose to let go, but you cant choose to let go and then choose let something be, expecting it to still be there when you make that decision. " Nothing that's worth it isn't worth fighting for"…..decide what situation in your life is worth the fight. If you are really torn between where and when to throw in the towel or give it one more shot, look at the pros and cons of the situation. If you have weighed your options and ultimately pursuing this struggle in your life no longer reaps rewards greater than its punishments, then Let it GO. Let that job go, let that addiction go, let that task go, let him/her go, let them go. But if you realize that despite all the pain, all the suffering, that its ultimately all worth it because the satisfaction you receive from the rewards, whether small or large in number are great enough to keep you moving forward , then that's when you let it be. Success isn't measured in quantity, its measured in capacity. If you've done all you can, stop killing yourself, and trust in the steps you've taken so far. And if its meant to be it will. If not, then you will slowly see that you didn't even have to choose to let go: the choice will be made for you.
Be true to yourself
Before you continue to put work into something in which you are unsure of the outcome, decide what's best for you. If your hardest decision involves someone who may come across as very important to you, sometimes the best thing to do is take the time to not delete them from your life, but temporarily subtract them from the situation in order to make a clear decision. If they are truly for you and worth having you in their lives, they will find a way back to you, not necessarily to pick up where you left off, but to perhaps to provide insight as to where you should be headed for the future...together or separate. If you care about someone, no matter how they have hurt you, or have done you any harm, the worst thing to do is be dishonest...with your feelings for them and your relationship. If you lead them to think every thing is ok, they will expect certain things from you that will ultimately become impossible when in your being, there is anguish towards them, and also yourself. This goes not just for relationships, but in various aspects of your life in general. Decide who and what is important TO you and who and what is important FOR you. In life you will come across many who were placed in your life at the time they were, just to get you through that stage of your development, nothing more, nothing less. Few of these people may still pop up every now and then, just to remind you of where you've been, and where you're destined to go, not essentially meaning they are a part of that journey. Whether it seemed as if the relationship was positive or negative, the truth of the matter is ,it has shaped you, molded you, scarred you: finished result: you are NOT the same as you were before. The greatest teacher is a student. Allow yourself to learn from life's mistakes ultimately impacting your progress and who knows, maybe that of someone else.
Let your heart lead the way…..not your mind
If you are torn as to what at this present moment is best for you, follow your heart. This road includes your gut instincts, no regrets and a greater appreciation for your ultimate decision. A lot of time we decide to pursue situations because when we thought it through, it seemed like the right choice. There is nothing wrong with thinking before acting, but the problem arises when things are thought about too much. You will never be satisfied with your decision.. Some of the best and most long lasting decisions are made using an impulse. Although rain may come whether you think about it or not, at least when it does arrive, can appreciate the fact that there will be a rainbow to follow.The problem with using just your mind is that even though you carried an umbrella, you will have difficulty bouncing back when the sun shines again, furthermore expecting it to rain everytime.
Final thought. Give it your best shot. Work hard, love hard, but most importantly, believe even harder. In not just what you're trying to achieve, but in yourself. Appreciate where you've been, and know that YOU ultimately decide based on your effort, where you will go.
Thanks for reading
1 comment:
All good stuff!
Post a Comment